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Over 86% of women require direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.
Very few women find their clitoris is stimulated during intercourse, and a small clitoral vibrator can be discreet and effective when incorporated into couples or strap-on play.
Strap On: External Sex Toys
Great things often come in small packages and the LELO Siri, Spirit, and We-Vibe Touch are adorably small and extremely powerful sex toys. Clitoral toys are often the most popular because of their size and power; they are also not as intimidating for first time toy users or new lovers.
These three external sex toys are possibly the best on the market. All three toys are rechargeable and made from skin friendly silicone which is velvety smooth, hypo allergenic, phthalate free and non-porous.
These sex toys are also super silent and gorgeously designed. Because of their size they are able to fit comfortably between you and your partner for clitoral stimulation during sex, underneath a strap on for added pleasure, or slipped into under wear to make those long drivers more fun. An added bonus is that because they are so small they’re very discreet and can travel with you easily in luggage or purses.
Strap On: Versatile Sex Toys
The Siri and the Spirit both have button locking functions so if you are travelling with them you won’t need to worry about the embarrassment of your toy starting up in your luggage at the airport! These sex toys are also very versatile and are great for foreplay. You can use them for solo use or for oral sex, around perineum, vulva, nipples, scrotum, base of penis, pretty much anywhere that you want to stimulate. Using a drop of water based lube will also help create less drag for more comfortable use.
The Siri is designed in Sweden, it is a compact and quiet vibrator with a strong vibration, locking buttons and has an array of different speeds and pulses.
The Spirit is part of the Leaf line developed by Royal Swan a Canadian company. It is naturally form-fitting toy that can be easily held and used with a harness. It has powerful vibrations, locking buttons, and multiple speeds and is also water-proof.
The We-Vibe Touch is also made by a Canadian company. Tongue shaped especially for clitoral stimulation, with a strong vibration, low noise, several intensities as well as pulses, and is water-proof.
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Things To Know About A Strap On
A Strap On: What To Look For
- All D.VICE dildos are made from phthalate free 100% skin friendly silicone
- Silicone dildos are firm and flexible and easy to look after, all D.VICE dildos have a 10 year guarantee
- 100% silicone dildos are non-porous, can be used vaginally and anally, have no smell and can be washed in hot soapy water, or even boiled in water for 3 minutes to sterilise
- D.VICE silicone dildos are available in a range of shapes, sizes and colours to suit your desires
- All D.VICE dildos fit the D.VICE harness range and are purchased separately
- Exceptions to this are Sire silicone dildo needs to have a harness with an adjustable ring (such as the Groover due to his substantial girth.
- And the Beginner’s Strap-on Kit that comes complete with harness, dildo and lubricant.
More silicone dildo options
- D.VICE also stocks double dildo styles, the Tantus Feeldoe and Fun Factory Share. Double dildos allow you to stay connected with your partner and to feel the sensations as you move in and out during intercourse.
- One end (the bulb) of the double dildo is worn vaginally by a woman while the shaft curves out from your body to penetrate your partner
- We recommend wearing your double dildo in a harness as it is a big pelvic floor work out to hold the double dildo in the vagina. The harness supports the weight and makes it much easier to use your double dildo
- The Feeldoe and Share double dildo range can fit in the D.VICE Groover strap on harness
Tips For Pleasurable Strap-On Play
- Always use a silicone compatible lubricant such as LubeXXX or quality water-based lubricant such as Probe with your strap-on. Lubricant makes the whole strap on experience more slippery and pleasurable.
- If you are using a strap on for anal sex, lubricant is essential. If you are finding penetration uncomfortable or painful, this is because the sphincter muscles are in spasm. Take your time and relax. Start with a small butt plug of dildo, before moving on to larger dildos. A natural and effective muscle relaxant such as Innuendo or Apronal helps the muscles of the anus to relax making penetration easier and preventing discomfort.
Common myths and misconceptions about people who use or want to use strap-on’s
- Strap-ons are only for lesbians – while many lesbians enjoy strap on play, some don’t. Strap-ons actually have no sexual preference and men and women of all sexual appetites can use and enjoy them
- Men who like to be the receptive partner, who enjoy anal penetration, are gay – Both men and women have nerve endings in the anal passage that makes stimulation of the area very pleasurable. Men also have the male g-spot, the prostate gland, in the anal area and stimulation of this can lead to mind blowing orgasm. Men who are open to the idea of bum fun can open up a whole new world of pleasure and sensation that is not tied to sexual preference at all.
Care of your strap on
- Wash your sex toys after each use.
- Wash your silicone dildo with a mild soap and hot water or boil in water for 3 minute to sterilise.
- To clean the harness we recommend wiping the harness thoroughly with a hot cloth and make sure it is dry before storing.
- You can treat your harness with a beeswax leather conditioner for greater waterproofing
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What Is A Strap On And Who Uses Them?
A strap-on is a harness and dildo combination, worn by a woman or a man (generally worn by a women) during penetrative partner sex.
The name strap-on describes how the harness straps the dildo against the body of the wearer.
Strap On: In All Shapes And Sizes
Strap-on’s are used for vaginal and anal penetration of both men and women in a range of sexual positions. Dildos come in all shapes and sizes.
People who have a love of penetration use strap-ons. Heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bi, queer gendered and transgendered couples and singles can and do use a strap-on as a regular part of their active and pleasurable sex life.
For women to women and lesbian sex, a strap-on may not represent a substitute penis although some women may explore this idea. For all strap-ons create sexual excitement, greater closeness and intimacy during sex involving penetration.
A Strap-on enables the wearer to have hands free penetrative sex with a partner. In many heterosexual couples, strap-on play allows the male partner to experience the intense pleasures of anal penetration and to hand over the responsibility for being on top!
For people across the entire gender and sexuality spectrum, strap-on play is all about increasing pleasure and sensation and having fun.
Strap On Harnesses Since 1998
A harness that does not fit well or is uncomfortable, strap-on sex can be frustrating and even embarrassing. Strap-ons are often made with poor quality materials and are not tested to see if they work. Sizing can be a real issue as often only very small harnesses are made in a one size fits all.
D.VICE manufactures out own range of quality strap-on harnesses and silicone dildo’s. We have been making strap-ons since 1998 and have a reputation for making the best strap-on products in Australasia.
In fact we started the business originally because we couldn’t find good strap-on’s ourselves.
D.VICE Strap-on Harnesses
- D.VICE strap-on harnesses are comfortable, easy to use, sturdy-so you can really get active
- Harnesses are made from leather and non-leather-vegan friendly materials
- D.VICE harnesses are adjustable, they can be fitted snuggly and so hold the silicone dildo’s securely, giving you greater confidence and a more enjoyable encounter every time
- D.VICE strap-on harnesses come in a range of sizes from Women’s Sizing 6-28 or Men’s sizing XS-2XX. Each size is adjustable within a generous range ie (Small=8-14) (Med = 16-20) (L =20-24) (XL = 24-28)
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Strap-On Harnesses
Strap-on Harnesses are for FTM, or female to male, transsexuals, bi’s and lesbians, or any woman who likes to pack.
RodeoH are a sexy new strap-on harness designed for the trans male market and those who like to pack.
Essentially packing underwear, the RodeoH are sexy and comfortable strap-on harness and provide good support for the guy or gal looking for that more realistic bulge.
The Strap-On RodeoH Explained
As supportive underwear, they are more suited to a softer style dildo than a more erect dildo for the guy or girl who wants to get into serious strap-on play. They will be more comfortable and easier to wear for long periods than a traditional strap-on harness and are ideal for guys who want to pass.
RodeoH will look hot under your jeans or any style of pants and if you favour the pants halfway down your backside look, this is the right harness for you.
Made in San Francisco, one of the most the queer friendly cities in the world, RodeoH introduces a new level of style and sexiness to the sex gear for trans and queer people.
In Australasia, good soft packers are hard to come by and D.VICE is constantly looking to source quality gear for trans men, lesbians, boi’s and queer folk who like to pack.
Strap-on Harnesses for Sex
To add to your wardrobe, we recommend a sturdy leather or non-leather harness for more active use during strap-on sex. To give you the freedom and thrusting power you deserve, we recommend a D.VICE made harness.
D.VICE strap-on harnesses are designed for comfort and power and are built to last. Your D.VICE harness will strap your dildo firmly against the body and leave your hands free for other fun with your partner’s body.
We recommend using a silicone dildo with your strap-on harness as they are long lasting, easy to clean and skin friendly. D.VICE make a range of silicone dildos – each comes with a 10 year guarantee and there are many other good brands on the market such as Fun Factory.
DVICE strap-on harnesses can be worn with a double dildo such as the Feeldoe and Share, and you can wear a vibrator or dildo under your harness for wearer stimulation, we recommend the We-Vibe and the Joya Natural as great combinations to add more sensation to your strap-on sex.
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Vibrators for Stimulating the Strap-On Wearer
Many a strap-on wearer gets sufficient enjoyment from wearing the strap-on and penetrating their partner, however a lot of women wearers of strap-ons are looking for a clitoral stimulator to add to the experience.
A D.VICE strap-on harness can be adjusted to allow a vibrator to be slipped underneath the harness to sit against the clitoris and inside the vagina.
We recommend the We-Vibe 2, the LELO Tiani and the We-Vibe 3, as ideal vibrators for a woman to use for clitoral self-stimulation whilst wearing a strap-on.
Strap On and Add a Vibrator
These 3 styles of vibrators are shaped like a U and sit snuggly against the clitoris and inside the vagina. All are quiet and powerful with a range of pulsating and vibrating pleasure modes. Your receptive partner will enjoy some of the vibrations as it travels up the shaft of the silicone dildo.
The We-Vibe 3 (due for release in Australasia late 2011) and LELO Tiani are remote controlled vibrators and either the person wearing the vibe or your partner can turn you on!
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When not using in combination with a strap-on, they are a sensational toy for partner play, stimulating both partners during lovemaking.
A woman can also slip a remote control vibrating bullet inside for internal vibration and stimulation. The LELO Lyla is a new rechargeable remote control toy combining traditional remote technology…turn your lover on from afar…with WII sports technology…moving the control about to increase and decrease vibration. A woman can turn herself on or hand over the controls to her partner she is penetrating…steamy stuff!
Strap On Pleasure for Both Partners
Other vibrating toys that will give some stimulation to both partners –though not nearly as satisfying for the strap-on wearer- are vibrating rings. There are a number of styles available.
All vibrating rings are designed to vibrate along the shaft and around the testicles for men, on the shaft and around the genital area for women and trans, strap-on wearers and against the clitoris for receptive partners (female) or testicles and shaft (male).
Vibrating rings can be worn over the shaft of a penis for male female penetrative sex and are good fun.
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Stimulation for the Woman Strap-On Wearer
A woman wearing a strap-on can experience added pleasure as she gives her partner female or male a penetrating good time.
Here are a few ideas and tips for making the most of your strap-on experience.
Vaginal Stimulation for the Woman Strap-On Wearer
During strap-on play as a woman you may want to experience penetration yourself, this can be achieved using a range of sex toys and positions. Regardless whether your partner is male or female, you can incorporate penetration into your strap-on play. It may require some flexibility, energy and perseverance to enjoy the rewards.
- Thigh harnesses offer a range of sexual positions, try thrusting inside your partner as she/he reaches around and slides her fingers, hand or fist into your vagina. Your partner can do the same while you wear a traditional front sitting strap-on also
- You can wear a Share or Feeldoe, the bulb is inserted in the vagina, to feel the pull of the shaft as you enter your partner
- If both partners are wearing a thigh strap-on harness, you can position yourselves to
- penetrate each other at the same time and get a great rhythm up for powerful thrusting
- Insert a dildo or dildo shaped vibrator inside your vagina and penetrate yourself as you thrust inside your partner
Anal stimulation for the Woman Strap-On Wearer
Anal stimulation can add to the considerable pleasure of penetrating your partner with a strap-on. There are numerous ways the wearer can enjoy anal pleasure and here are a few options.
- Butt plugs; butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes and are a fun and stimulating hands free option. With a bit of exertion and excitement they frequently shoot out, all part of the fun.
- You can use a vibrating or non-vibrating butt plug.
- Your partner may be able to reach around and slip her/his fingers or a dildo into your anus as you thrust inside them.
- You can insert a butt plug or dildo and sit down on it whilst your partner rides your strap-on thigh harness
- Slide a set of anal beads inside and pull them out yourself as you reach orgasm
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Vibrators for Stimulating the Strap-On Wearer
Double strap-on penetration
Why should the women have all the fun with a strap-on?
It may seem a bit strange, but men can wear a strap-on for double penetration. Technically a little tricky, for the sexually adventurous man who has a bit of flexibility and patience; it can be a lot of fun.
For all strap-on play we recommend using a quality lubricant and for anal penetration using plenty of lubricant and an effective muscle relaxant for anal play to ensure greater comfort for more vigorous sex.
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Tips and Ticks for Men to Strap-On
A traditional strap-on can be worn sitting above the penis with the silicone against the pubic mound. Some styles work better than others. The D.VICE Fervour can be broken down to a ring and straps and is a good style for double penetration.
A thigh harness can be worn both on the thigh and around the waist for double penetration. Choosing a dildo with a small base –such as the Fun Factory dildos such as Bandito/Tiger or Magnum can make this a more comfortable fit.
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If your penis is pushed down and sitting underneath the harness, as you enter your partner vaginally with the dildo, the shaft of your penis can slide against her anus
Alternatively, a D.VICE thigh harness- the Garter leather or vinyl, can be strapped to sit above the penis, to hold a dildo in place.
Strap On and Go!
Once you have the strap-on in place and your penis is ready for action, slide inside her vaginally with the dildo and anally with your penis, you can slip on a vibrating cocking to add to the sensation. Try missionary and doggie style.
Slip a silicone butt plug, vibrating butt plug or prostate massager into your anus whilst you thrust inside her to intensify the experience for you. If you know how to use a prostate massager, you will know the benefits of the rock hard erections and mind blowing orgasms you incorporate into penetrative play.
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If you are penetrating your partner using a thigh harness strapped to your leg, she can stroke and stimulate your penis. You can do this in a range of positions, with her sitting on your knee or on her back.
Alternatively you can masturbate or use a penis pump whilst penetrating her with your thigh harness strap-on.
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Sexual Positions for Strap-on Sex
A strap-on harness offers a great range of sexual positions for partner play and gives both the wearer and the receiver differing sexual positions for orgasmic penetrative play.
Most of the strap-on positions discussed here are for a traditional front sitting strap-on harness and dildo combination such as the Groover or Hipster, however many are suitable with a thigh harness as well.
We recommend plenty of lubricant for strap-on sex. This allows you to go harder for longer, reduces friction and makes strap-on sex more pleasurable. To make anal penetration more comfortable try Innuendo – a natural muscle relaxant for sensational anal penetration.
Strap On Sex Requires Fitness
Strap-on sex requires a good level of fitness, especially for the thruster and will work out your thighs, back and stomach muscles. The more stamina you have the longer you can go for.
Missionary Position
The strap-on missionary position describes a range of positions where the receptive partner is on their back and the thrusting partner is face to face with them.
By no means is the receptive partner required to be passive and by lifting their hips they can more easily grip and squeeze against the strap-on dildo. This tilting can also increase the depth for your partner to thrust deeper. The flexible receptive partner can place their feet against the shoulders of the thruster for deep and full penetration.
The receptive partner can be on the receiving end of vaginal and/or anal penetration. Either a front sitting strap-on harness or a thigh harness can offer great positions for missionary strap-on sex.
On Top, Strap-on Sex
The receptive partner on top allows the receptive person greater control over the depth angle and speed of penetration. This position can be done partners facing or receptive partner facing backwards.
The strap-on wearing, thrusting partner can fondle breasts, twist nipples, stimulate the clitoris or penis and generally get hot and horny with your lover. You can get a great rhythm going and for women receptive partners switch from vaginal to anal penetration.
Strap On Sex With Pregnancy
Side by Side Strap-on Sex
Side by side strap-on play or spooning, works well for g-spot penetration, where one partner is pregnant or both are different heights.
Each partner can get into position for greater or lesser penetration. The thrusting partner can hold the hips of the receptive for greater control. This position works well for slower more gentle thrusting movements.
Get in Behind, Rear Entry Strap-on Sex
Doggy style covers off a range of actions with the strap-on dildo coming in from behind. This can include bending your partner over the bed, grabbing their hips and sliding then thrusting from behind with them standing, pushing their head down and grabbing hair or shoulders and thrusting. This can be a great position of power play with strap on sex.
The thruster can reach around a fondle breasts, nipples, penis or clitoris during vaginal or anal penetration. The thruster can also slip in from behind with the receptive partner on their knees, this can be a good position for pregnant women. The angle can be altered to more easily achieve g-spot and or prostate stimulation.
Sitting Strap-on Sex
With the receptive partner sitting on a bench, the thruster can easily slip inside the vagina or anus of your partner. A bench such as the bathroom sink can enable the receptive partner to be tilted back and thighs wrapped around the thruster.
Alternatively the receptive partner can slide onto the strap-on dildo when the thruster is sitting on a chair. The receptive partner can ride the strap-on and get up a good rhythm and reduce the amount of effort required by the thruster.
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How to Introduce Strap On Play to your Man – for Heterosexual or Bisexual Women
You may have wondered what it would feel like to wear a strap-on and pleasure your man, or perhaps you have fantasised about being the penetrative partner and being on top.
Many heterosexual or bisexual women enjoy strapping on a dildo and pleasuring their male partner anally. This form of penetrative sex play is much more common than you think, and many women find it hugely arousing and empowering to strap it on.
Strap On – Misconceptions
If strap-on play is new to both, letting your man know that you would like to strap-it-on and pleasure him can be scary. Whilst many heterosexual men are curious, misconceptions abound about what it means if you would like to engage in anal play as a man.
In reality, the sexual practice you enjoy does not determine your sexual orientation and many heterosexual men enjoy anal pleasure with their female lovers.
If you have never discussed it before, how can you know if he will embrace the idea or be repelled? The longer you have been in a relationship, the harder it can be to introduce a new sexual activity – depending on how open and exploratory your relationship is.
There may never be the perfect moment, so choose a time when both of you feel connected…not if he is tired and stressed from work, or as you are heading out the door.
Strap On – Tips on How to Introduce It
• Bringing home a D.VICE catalogue, watching a movie featuring strap-on’s or reading him an erotic short with a strap-on storyline, can be a gentle introduction and can be followed up by a shopping trip to a D.VICE store to meet your future strap-on.
• Starting to explore anal pleasure using buttplugs, fingers and anal vibrators can be a natural lead-in to strap-on sex.
• When your first discuss your desire wear a strap-on, stick to positive language and own it…for example “I would love to pleasure you anally and see your hot butt bending over for me.”
• During your discussion about strap-on sex, ask her how he feels about the idea and what he is thinking, you may need to give him a few days to think about it and arrange another time to discuss it. He may struggle with the many misconceptions such as that he must be gay or perverted, he may be uncertain about being submissive or receptive during sex, or be concerned about the poo factor.
• Let him know what you feel about him and how you want to explore and build on your sexual relationship with him.
• Give her a copy of ‘The Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-on Sex by Violet Blue http://www.dvice.co.nz/sex-toys/books%20vouchers%20&%20dvds/sex+guides/
While it may be scary or stressful bringing up the topic of your desire to wear strap-on and pleasure your man, it could also be the start of a whole new world of sexual desire and intimacy and a risk worth taking.
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Sexual Positions for Strap-on Sex
Introducing Strap On Play with Your Lover
If strap on play is new to yourself and your lover, letting your lover know that you would like her to strap-it-on can be scary.
When is the right time and how can you tell your woman that you want her to penetrate you? If you have never discussed it before, how can you know if she will embrace the idea or be repelled?
The longer you have been in a relationship, the harder it can be to introduce a new sexual activity; depending, of course, on how open and exploratory your relationship is.
Discussing the Strap On
There may never be the perfect moment, so choose a time when both of you feel connected…not if she is tired and stressed from work, or as you are heading out the door.
Here are some possible intro’s;
· Bringing home a catalogue, watching a movie featuring strap-on’s or reading her an erotic short with a strap-on storyline, can be a gentle introduction and can be followed up by a shopping trip to a D.VICE store to meet your future strap-on.
· Starting to explore anal pleasure using buttplugs, fingers and anal vibrators can be a natural lead-in to strap-on sex.
· Talk dirty to her when you are having sex and seed the idea of giving yourself to her…build the fantasy that can later become your reality
· When your first discuss your desire to be on the receiving end of a strap-on, stick to positive language and own it. For example, “I would love to surrender myself to you, and you would look unbelievably sexy in a strap-on.” And “I want to see how hot you look in a strap-on and want you to bend me over and take me.”
Further Advice to Introduce the Strap On
· During your discussion about strap-on sex, ask her how she feels about the idea and what she is thinking, you may need to give her a few days to think about it and arrange another time to discuss it. She may struggle with the many misconceptions such as that you must be gay or perverted, she may be uncertain about taking the lead in sex, or be concerned about the poo factor.
· Let her know what you feel about her and how you want to explore and build on your sexual relationship with her
· Give her a copy of ‘The Adventurous Couples Guide to Strap-on Sex by Violet Blue’ (link: http://www.dvice.co.nz/sex-toys/books%20vouchers%20&%20dvds/sex+guides/)
While it may be scary or stressful bringing up the topic of your desire to receive penetration from your lover in a strap-on, it could also be the start of a whole new world of sexual desire and intimacy and a risk worth taking.
For more information, or to view or great range of products, visit D.VICE’s online showroom today.
How to Introduce Strap On Play to your Man – for Heterosexual or Bisexual Women
